There is one thing that comes to mind many a time. Especially within the last few days, for no particular reason. But what compels me write (i almost typed right) this post is to ask the question: Why do good friends split up?
Good friend, best friends are what most would call them, go through so much together. They laugh together, cry together, hurt together, etc. So why after going through all of the crap and all of the good times do they just decide to split up because maybe a boy entered the picture? Why must people refuse to talk about things?
I know im not one to talk, but people are so impulsive. Doing things before they think them through is the death to so many relationships. And it is really sad. I once cracked a harmless, at least it seemed so to me, joke at someone's mother and they kind of exploded and refused to talk to me anymore. Granted, i probably shouldnt have done so w/o thinking it through but such a thing was in jest. He refused to let me apologize or even to explain that i had no idea that it would make him so mad.
What does it mean to be friends with someone? It's definintely more than a passing wave or "hello. how are you?" It's more than just listening or talking. It is more than just being friends because it feels good. So what is it? Well, i think it is something that is very hard to define. One of the best ways to describe friendship (and i get this from a very good friend of mine) is to say that a friendship is just another word for love.
1 Corinthians 13:4-6 states that "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."
Is this not what a friendship is? What kind of friendship would one have if all that one person did was seek ways to use the other person for their own vices? What friendship would there be if i kept writing down everything that a "friend" did to me? There are so many more ways to use these verses to describe a loving and healthy friendship.
All this said, it just saddens me when great friends all of a sudden become people who detest each other because they were not willing to listen to one another because of some hasty decisions that were made. It saddens me that we must lose friends. But there is a bright side. There are more best friends to come. Best friends that we need for either a short while or a long while before we must move on. With bad comes good. And i will take some bad if there is good right alongside with it.
